Happy freaking new year twenty something’s! I cannot believe that 2019 is ending. I’ve never gotten very personal on T20S before (well relatively), but as you’ll read below, one of my goals is to share a little bit more about my life on here, so thought I’d do a year-end recap to share a little bit of what I’ve been up to.
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2019 was a big year, there was lots of change. I mean, when is there not in your twenties?! It’s pretty much all change, like one constant ball of things moving and changing. So fun, amiright? Kidding!
For me, 2019 was a great one, but as always – that comes with challenges. My boyfriend, Alex, and I moved in together (which has honestly been the best), and I felt like more of an adult than ever. (Also, I turned 28!). I finally became more comfortable with saying no – especially to plans – made the realest friends I’ve ever had in San Francisco, grew my blog, got promoted in my job, and gave up the 2 hours (each way!) commute I had been doing for three years.
I also got asked to be a bridesmaid in two of my best friend’s wedding next year, cried for 4 hours straight on my birthday, fell in love with murder podcasts (and Hallmark Christmas movies) & finally skied my first black diamond run.
In any year, I truly believe it’s important to reflect (I know I know, I’m a walking cliché) because even though there were times where I was bawling my eyes out, feeling like the world was about to end, it wasn’t. And it didn’t. And even though I’m ambitious as hell about the future, a lot of good came from hard work this year.
2020, I can’t wait to see where you take us.
Friends & Being in Loooooove:
You’ve heard me talk endlessly about my struggles with making friends in San Francisco. It has NOT been easy. After moving from North Carolina (where I left 5 of the closest girlfriends I’ve had since elementary school), it was starting to feel like I wouldn’t actually be able to make solid girlfriends in SF.
I’d be like, ‘cool, maybe I just won’t be the girl with a group of friends’. But then, a friend in SF who I’ve had for a few years invited me to watch The Bachelor with her friends. Before I knew it, I had a group of girls. I’m OBSESSED with them. They like all the same things I do. These ladies are strong. They are awesome. They will be in my life forever and gosh darn they were worth the wait.
Oh, and as I said above – my BF & I moved in together. This means endlessly living room dance parties, traveling the world, and being more in love than ever. It also means that for the first time while living in SF, I wasn’t sharing the kitchen/living room with 4-5 other people.
Growing this platform has been one of the most rewarding and exciting things I’ve ever done. All I want is to help find other people jobs. For years, I would think, “I feel like I’ve cracked the code for job applications, how can I help other women figure this out too?!”
It wasn’t until March of this year that I really figured out how to reach people looking for career advice. In addition, I finally started investing like this was a business (thanks to the book ‘You Are a Bad Ass’ by Jen Sincero) and started seeing some results!
It’s been SO cool to get emails and notes from you all that the advice you got from T20S actually HELPED you get that job. Let’s be real, that’s all I really want and I hope I can do that for each and every one of you in the new year. This advice works & the testimonials prove it.
Over 200K+ (compared to 30K or so the year before) people came to T20S in 2019, say FREAKING WHAT! I can’t wait to see that double again next year.
Job Promotions & Getting Rid of My Commute:
Not sure if ever vocalized this before, but I had a super long commute prior to this April. Two hours long…each way. And although I’ll never not be grateful for having a career, and even having a job at all, commuting was tough for me. My hours were funky as a result and I was craving feeling like I was ‘living’ in San Francisco.
After years of hard work, I was able to rid the commute and get a job promotion. Looking back, this was not easy to do. It’s something I get asked about constantly from others!
I think the biggest lesson from this is that if you are going to set goals for yourself, be comfortable with them being long term. I had some of these goals for years – but I stayed grateful for the ‘moment’ and finally met them.
Crying on My Birthday:
You’ve heard me joke countless times (and give some advice on) crying at work. Welp, this year, I also fell into tears (about work sadly) on my birthday.
I got some news that reflected on the personal performance of my job, which felt like worse news than it turned out to be while taking a day long-business trip on my birthday. I spent the flight home in tears, feeling like the world was going to end, and not being able to stop until I came home.
So yes, I spent my birthday in tears. Over WORK, the thing I preach to freaking 200K+ women not to do on this very blog. Don’t make work your life, ‘I say, don’t take a personally’! We all fall into the trap, but it’s just a matter of how you fall out of it.
The biggest lesson is that things that feel like a big deal, or dare I say the end of the world, turned out not to be. Almost always, it turns out to NOT be the end of the world.
The whole ‘crying on my birthday’ incident really lead me into thinking about my confidence. In all the times in 2019 when I felt like I ‘couldn’t handle it’, if I had simply had the confidence in myself to remember how I well I’ve handled those tough situations in the past – I probably wouldn’t have had the waterworks in the first place.
My confidence this year has been a theme that’s struggled, looking for confidence from others around me, rather than from within. I know this is easier said than done, I imagine a lot of people reading this blog actually feel the same, but I want to get rid of the instant gratification I crave from others. Honestly. Who CARES.
Instagram (in general) has a lowlight in general for me this year, which in the scheme of things – means my year was pretty damn good. Like if Instagram is a lowlight, and that’s literally all I could think of for this blog post – I have a *lot* to be grateful for!!
In all seriousness and vulnerability, I spend hours a day comparing myself and scrolling through Instagram. I can’t even look at my screen time report because I’m so embarrassed. If I just spent those hours not scrolling through, not caring as much – I would probably be so much more productive (maybe that’s a resolution I see in the mix).
I’m jealous of the likes other bloggers get. I complain about the algorithm (ha, I am seriously a walking cliche). And as it relates to T20S, I have *not* been able to grow my IG. I’ve been able to grow Pinterest like crazy (my monthly impressions are above 700K), but Instagram has been something I’m stuck on.
In 2020, I hope I can just remember that there will always be another platform (enter: TikTok). And that even though people can’t see that a ton of people come to T20S (ie because I have very few followers on IG), I shouldn’t care about that. (Even though I do – and it’s hard not to). In 2020, I hope I can stay focused on what really matters, which is finding YOU a job. So if people can’t see how popular this site is, that’s ok – and not something I should lose sleep about! Do you have struggles with this one as well?
In 2020, I vow to always try new things, be comfortable with the uncomfortable, give love those around me & help get YOU a job. Let’s do this, k?!