If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you know that finding self-love has not always been easy (and is ALWAYS an ongoing journey 💁🏻). So many of you were curious about that previous post about finding self-love that I wanted to do a follow up: my daily practices to continuing the self-love journey.
I started doing most of this list in the last 6 months. Even though I’m in a serious relationship (love ya, Alex!), I found that I was no longer using my boyfriend to get the love I was craving – I was getting it from myself!
This gave me a sense of independence I never knew was possible, but always knew I deserved.🙌🏼
A lot of us (myself included) resort to things such as shopping, spending money or getting our nails done when we talk about self-love. Those things are important too (I mean…credit cards exist for a reason!).
In all seriousness, IMO, there are more productive, long-term solutions to giving yourself, LOVE. 👉🏼👉🏼👉🏼
(cue Hailee Steinfeld lyrics here)
I want to hear from you! Make sure to comment below on what you do to give yourself THAT LOVE YOU DESERVE.
The Five Self-Love Techniques That Will Guarantee Blow Your Mind
- Practice Mindfulness
How many times a day are you truly just at the moment?! How many times a week do you actually think about what you are doing, while you are doing it? I posted on Instagram this week about my experience being more in the moment this weekend. It was so freeing.
In addition to just feeling great, being more mindful can help you be more mindful of your BODY as well. I hold a lot of my stress physically, does anyone else do that?! Being in touch with myself has really helped me take care of myself (and love myself) in a way I did not know was possible.
Every day, I try and ask myself a few of these questions:
- How am I feeling today? Is there anything that could be causing me to feel a certain way?
- How is my body’s balance? (… I’m literally such a Libra )
- Is anything mental harboring into physical feelings?
Side note: In college & high school, I actually ended up seeing TONS of doctors because I had such bad stomach aches. I left parties early and tried every diet on the planet (no gluten, dairy, etc!). It wasn’t until year’s later that I learned the root of all my stomach problems was stress.
Once I started being more mindful and working on living in the moment (as well as the rest of these tips), my stomach aches magically went away!
This goes hand in hand with mindfulness. How can you be mindful if you are always distracted? It was recommended to me once to try and sit or walk (without any destination) without distractions, just noticing what’s around me. This helps me feel more balanced and at peace with whatever is going on!
TBH, being totally in the moment and unplugged is REALLY hard for me. Giving myself that time (think of it like a present) is an amazing form of self-love. It’s like giving my brain a little nap!
If you are anything like me and you absolutely need to be doing something, try one of those adult color books. They are incredible in helping you be in the moment. I’m obsessed!
3. Do a Good Deed
This one may seem less intuitive but I swear, HEAR ME OUT. When you are craving self-love, do something kind for someone else. Can you bring a someone without a home dinner who sits near your house? Compliment someone who needs it?
This may sound self-serving (but it’s true) but doing something kind to someone else can provide that sense of self-love that you crave. It gets you out of your own head and gives you the ability to see some perspective.
Seriously, meditation has been a LIFE game changer for me. I became addicted to the app, Headspace, (not an ad, just an obsession) because it gives you daily 10 minutes of guided meditation that truly follows its name, give you more headspace. As someone with three jobs, I’m always craving to clear my mind. I love doing all these things, but I can’t do them if my overwhelmed.
10 minutes of meditation is like an amazing present that I can give to my mind every day!
5. Compliment YOURSELF
When I’m lacking or craving self-love, I try and remind myself of the things that are going well. Sometimes I feel like everything is just going wrong or I can’t make things good enough.
Finding this sense of pride and self-worth feels so important in figuring out this whole self-love thing!
Loving yourself is definitely an ever-evolving practice and journey. These five practices have been beyond essential in continuing my path to self-love!
👉👉What do you do to give yourself love? Comment below!