There are few things worse than having to spend hours a day, cooped up in a cubicle absolutely hating your job. Deciding whether or not to quit your job is not an easy decision. But waiting all day, miserable, for happy hour is also not an easy place to be in! Does this sound like you?!
I’ve been in a few tough job situations in my career so far. I always struggled with deciding whether or not to stay in a crappy situation, hoping (and praying) it will get better, and leaving for fear of how the optics will look on the other side.
Because of these tough situations, I’ve noticed that there have been a few things where I should have KNOWN it was time to get out. There was no improvement in sight.
IMO, you should give every role a fair shot and know that a first impression is not always reality. All jobs are tough at first! But you have to go with your gut. If you don’t think there’s any room for improvement in your current job, start getting your resume ready and applying for other jobs! Just do it!
THINKING CLEARLY: WHAT THIS POST WILL DO FOR YOU
I hope this post allows you to think clearly, without emotion about your current situation to make the best decision for your career. I want you to be the best situated to meet all of your goals – and figuring out whether or not this job will do that for you is a hard decision to make.
One caveat: I would never recommend quitting your job without a new job lined up. It’s not worth it to give up the paycheck before you can have another job on board (thank you, rent!). So, if you are thinking it is time to quit your job, explore the signals below. Start networking to see what’s out there, and then make the decision!
How to Know If It’s Time to Quit Your Job
You Hate Your Boss
Have you ever heard the phrase, “people don’t stay with jobs, they stay with managers”? IMO, a boss will make or break your job experience. And being a people manager is NOT easy, so I don’t blame those who haven’t been successful in the role.
If you and your manager don’t vibe, they have some sort of vendetta against you, or they are (to put it frankly) just not good – consider quitting, or at least getting on another team in your company. Here’s why: your manager ultimately influences most everything in your job. They control your paycheck, your performance reviews, your growth. If your manager sucks (and you’ve followed all the tips in this post about hating your boss) there might not be a place to go in your current situation. So, find someone who cares about your long term career success and I know you’ll be happier!
You’ve been there longer than a year
I know a lot of ladies who read this blog (like myself!) are in their mid-twenties. As someone who’s hired people in the past, I always got nervous when I saw a resume that had someone in their mid-late twenties who had already had five jobs, all of which they stayed at for a few months. I didn’t want someone to join my team who was constantly hopping around!
If this is you, don’t worry. You’ve probably had good reason to leave other companies quickly (I mean, I got laid off after six months). BUT, if you are in your third job where you want to quit after six months, try and stay at least a year – maybe a year and a half. See if you can make the best of the situation because I would hate for your resume to have horrible consequences!
Also, a year is usually a good amount of time to tell if you will like the job. You’ve learned the role and you can see your potential impact clearly. Don’t be afraid to give it time!
You have given it a fair shot
TBH, I don’t believe in first impressions – at least not in a job. When you’re learning a job, there’s often so much to learn. You are seeing all the politics and downfalls for the first time – and no situation is going to be perfectly peachy. Don’t get scared off by a job while you are learning it. You were brought in because you are awesome and you will be able to make an impact.
Similarly to #2, beware of running away to quit a job when you’ve first started it. If you’ve been in a role for a while and you’re still overwhelmed, you’ve done everything in your power to make your life more pleasant and easier, go to town and start applying for new roles.
There’s no room for growth or improvement
Have you ever been in a job for a while and you want to grow, maybe get to a higher level or get a raise, but there’s absolutely no place for you to go? Ugh. I hate this one. Even if you love your company, your work should value you enough (and everything you’ve done for the company) to be open to giving you that raise or growth opportunity.
If you realize that there’s LITERALLY no room for improvement (maybe you feel a little stuck??), try applying for new roles. I’ve heard people say a great way to move up is to move out and even though you might be leaving a comfortable situation, you can certainly try to make it better by getting a new job.
You’ve asked for what you’ve wanted
Time and time again, I hear people complain about your jobs. I get it – work is work! But if you’re complaining and you haven’t asked for what you wanted, you can expect other people to give it to you. Let’s say you’ve been at a company for years and you want a raise. Have you asked for your raise yet? Or have you, been sitting around quietly, hoping your co-workers now have mind reading abilities?
If you want something at work, ASK for what that is before leaving. Framing any conversation in a respectful, kind way, will get you far in the workplace. Your colleagues should love that you have the courage to ask for what you want in your role – and maybe they will even give it to you!
No one has your back
Is there drama at your work? Maybe office politics? When I was interning at Conde Nast, there were a few other girls in the fashion closet who always talked sh*t about me in front of more senior editors. These editors had no idea about my work ethic or style, and I knew their comments were ruining my chances of getting a job long term.
In every job, you need an advocate. You need someone who is willing to stand up for you in the room and say, “hey, she’s awesome”. Inherently, there will always be office politics. Try and stay out of them as much as you can and ensure that other people will have your back long term.
It’s affecting your personal life
It took me a while to figure out how not to let work affect my stress levels outside of work. There was a time where I actually drove myself to panic attacks because I was so stressed about my job. It’s an amazing skill to be able to separate work and life. If for whatever reason, whatever is happening at work is affecting your mental health – this is a surefire signal to quit.
No one deserves to have their mental health ruined by a job. Heck! The whole point of this job is to teach women how to crush their careers without living a life of massive stress (because it is possible). If you’ve tried to lower your stress levels at work and cannot handle your current situation, put your mental health first. Quit!
You are not happy
I am a true believer in happiness first. We only have one life to live. Understanding what makes us happy and what will continue to make us happy is one of the most underrated skills in our twenties. If you are not happy with your job, it’s time to quit. Maybe you hate what you do. You have ambitions beyond your office. Whatever it is, make that conscious decision to dedicate your time to finding happiness and I know it will come to you.
What are you all dealing with when it comes to wanting to quit your jobs? Comment below!